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Sad news about Karsten's dad

Karsten’s father passed away yesterday. He was 84, and he’d been dealing with a variety of illnesses including emphysema (despite having never smoked a day in his life) and prostate cancer (which he beat — it was the treatment that led to complications). So while his death was not entirely unexpected, it was still rather sudden.

He hasn’t decided if he wants to be present for the visitation, but I think he’s leaning towards going. I’m navigating this as carefully as I can, because even though I know Karsten and his dad had a complicated relationship, I think Karsten is more affected than he expected to be.

We’ve been through so many shades of loss in the ten years we’ve been together, from the long, drawn-out, excruciating loss of my own father to the abrupt and devastating loss of Karsten’s mother, and now the sudden and emotionally puzzling loss of his father. We could really write a book. I suppose it would be more appropriate if we just wrote a song. Maybe that’s the project for this week.

Originally published at The Bee Hive. You can comment here or there.

Comments

my sympathies for the loss of karsten's dad.
Please pass my condolences and best wishes to Karsten.
That's a really tough situation. At times, it can be even harder to lose a parent when you have a complicated relationship. You mourn the loss of the parent and the relationship you wish you had. You mourn for things that could have been. So please give my best to Karsten.
That's a really insightful thing to say. Thank you very much for your understanding and for articulating something very difficult to grasp.
My thoughts are with y'all.
Sympathies and condolences to you both.
I am sorry to hear this. Thinking of you guys...let us know if there is anything we can do to help out.
My condolences to both of you.
Sending my best wishes to you both.

-J
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June 2009

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